In this article, specialist in sexology and hormonal disorders, Alice Stanton, author of the book «Hormone Harmony», refutes eight of the most common myths about sexual health of women and men.
Myth №1. At Menopause Interest to Sex is Reduced
Many women in fact continue to be actively interested in sex during menopause. Sex becomes even more spontaneous and wild, because in absence of menstruation fear of becoming pregnant and need to constantly think about means of protection or interruption of sexual intercourse disappears. In addition, women at this age are more confident and aware of their desires, they already know perfectly well what sex is, and they can get more satisfaction than ever.
Myth №2. Testosterone is the Only Hormone Important for Libido
Although testosterone is indeed a very important hormone for maintaining libido and sexual function of men and women, there are other hormones that play their roles. For example, estrogen is extremely important for sexual desire, both in men and in women. On the other hand, high rates of cortisol – hormone that mobilizes us in dangerous situation – can work at expense of libido.
Myth №3. If a Man is Really In Love, there won’t be Problems with Libido
To build real interpersonal relationships it takes a lot of time and effort. Like every phenomenon in our life, sexual relations need to pay attention to. Libido, desire for intimacy, will depend on many different factors, including time and place, so in case of failure it is simply ridiculous to blame partner for «lack of love».
Myth №4. Healthy Man Always Wants Sex
Sexual appetite and libido vary greatly among people, and this depends not only on state of health. If both you and your partner are satisfied with your sexual activity, this means that you have enough sex. It’s not necessary to compare yourself with others and adjust yourself to non-existent standards.
Myth №5. You should not Share your Desires with your Partner
Everything is exactly the opposite. Even if you do not have a habit of discussing sexual issues with your partner, start such conversation. This is especially true when you enter new phase of life, such as pregnancy, menopause or andropause. If you notice change in your body or in your sexual needs, speak out to your partner about it. Common experiences always enrich and strengthen relationship.
Myth №6. Main «Spots of Pleasure» are below Waist
Let us disagree with such a primitive concept and note that main spot of pleasure is your brain. It is it that relationship to partner and sex in general depend on, as well as sexual desire. Sense of significance for a loved one is a powerful aphrodisiac. If you demonstrate that you can not resist your attraction, your partner will feel it. Passion is contagious!
Myth №7. Libido is Unnecessary if you don’t Have a Partner
Libido is always necessary. Being able to deliver yourself sexual pleasure on your own is very important and not at all shameful. Even if you are now without a partner, your body needs affectionate touch and sensual pleasure. Practice of self-satisfaction is also necessary in order to find secret threads that will give you real pleasure, and later to try them with your partner.
Myth №8. Only Women Suffer from Lack of Libido
The problem of decreased libido is more common in women, but sometimes men suffer from it too. Low libido can result from use of alcohol and drugs, certain medications, stress, overweight, transplant surgery, hypertension, arthritis, hormonal disorders (e. g., low testosterone levels), brain tumors (prolactinoma), diabetes, hypothyroidism and other serious diseases, including cancer.